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WILL THEY EVER ADMIT THEY LIED OR TWISTED THE FACTS?
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The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed."
- Stephen Biko
DO THEY EVER ADMIT THEY ARE LYING OR TWISTED THE FACTS?
from this group The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed."
- Stephen Biko
DO THEY EVER ADMIT THEY ARE LYING OR TWISTED THE FACTS?
(EOPC believes Cyberpathy is an expression of Malignant Narcissism and/or Sociopathy - Fighter)
We work to try to understand the essence of the narcissist. When I was trying to explain the N to a friend, she understood an N as someone not "able to face the pain of imagining they did something wrong". I wasn't sure about this so did a quick internet search on narcissists and admitting wrong and accepting fault, and got these quotes: -
The narcissist sometimes notices that something is wrong with him and with his life -- but he never admits it. - ... the narcissist is incapable of admitting that something is wrong with HIM - They will never admit fault, they will never say they are sorry. If something goes wrong, they will play the victim. They will blame others.
"[I suspect my husband is a narcissist]. Last night we got into an argument over our daughters homework and he was absolutely livid because he was wrong and he knew he was wrong but could not admit it. He try's to place blame on anyone and everyone but himself."- Narcissists adores themselves. They live for themselves, they think they can do no wrong and will not admit to wrongdoing [re: traits common to 6 year olds and adult narcissists] - [For the narcissist] to admit to one failing, to acknowledge a mistake, even a simple human error of judgement, would be to open the door to the deep internal lack within. ... Such feelings of worthlessness are like an ocean being held back by a fragile dyke. The illusion of perfection, maintained by projecting faults onto someone else, is a barrier to be constantly tended, mended and shored up. To admit any feelings of deficiency would be the equivalent of poking a hole in the dyke, an event to be feared as a total disaster. Narcissists blame all problems on the "all-bad." It's never the narcissist's fault; it's always someone else's. The last paragraph speaks truly from a narcissist's perspective. It's the victim's fault. If the two of you have a conflict, he'll tweak the facts as much as he has to to make it all your fault.
Externalization of Blame -- The child cannot allow the bad feelings of being at fault for anything. He/she/they/YOU are the problem! He avoids feeling vulnerable by blaming others. The fragile self esteem cannot be punctured by taking responsibility for behavior. His script is "Do not expose me to those intolerable feelings inside. I can't handle it."
Since the false self is grandiose and perfect, relationship problems are never the fault of the narcissist. For making a change (whether great or small) implies that the narcissist has been two things they "cannot stand": imperfect (something is actually wrong with "them") and at fault ("they" actually were wrong, weak, or inferior somehow). It can't be HIS fault - he is perfect. The narcissist says in effect, "Something doesn't feel right. I'm too special to be the cause, therefore it must be your fault."
EOPC is loaded with examples of this, here's our sampling: (scroll over content to find embedded links)
BRAD DORSKY - his victim supposedly 'led him on.' Dorsky not only tried to rage at his victim, he sent a "friend" to find out who exposed him. Obviously, MR. DORSKY thought we were a bunch of barely legal kids on a social networking site; his favorite sort of target!
Says the relationship was consensual. This is a common one!
A relationship can not be consentual when the victim does not know the truthful facts to make an appropriate decision.
- Lying
- Telling her she's the only one
- Playing mind games with her
- Moving in on her when she & her husband/partner are having a hard time
- Moving in when she's vulnerable
- Having a 'hidden agenda'
...does not make for consensual. It does make for predatory exploitation.
Additionally is not always honest about his criminal record on the numerous dating sites he's on now. CLICK HERE FOR ONE OF HIS ADS Age 56? LOL!
(Here's the best one EOPC's heard!) Rumor has it that HICKS is shopping for a publisher for his book where he will tell the truth (he means his version of it a.k.a. complete fiction) and show how
1. two of his wives 'set him up just to get on T.V.' (EOPC is sure they had a great time telling the world how naive & used they were by Mr. Hicks) and
2. have lied about him as well as being 'mean' to his children (a.k.a. feeding, clothing, housing and taking care of his kids during their marriages while these kids sponged everything they could off them and various girlfriends of Mr. Hicks' simultaneously - just like Daddy!).
Additionally he plans to 'take legal action" against the producers of "Dr. Phil" and the WE show VERY BAD MEN who profiled him and showed him a bad light! Good luck with that, Mr. Hicks...
WILLIAM MICHAEL BARBER - back in jail after leaving the State in which he was incarcerated without permission and found having a false Social Security Card & Number and falsified identity papers on him. (After his wives and victims repeatedly told probation officers he would do it again and he was let out of jail early anyway)...
BARBER was also profiled on the WE show VERY BAD MEN. Don't you think these people would be thrilled they are so famous?
"J"/ GRIDNEY/ YIDWITHLID - 1. EOPC ran his expose for the third time in June 2007. This time he became of aware of it and he attacked one of his victims as the sole person causing him "public embarrassment." No acknowledgment that his real name and location were not used by us on this site, at this same victim's request.
No mention on his part that his new nickname and website are now linked to yet another 'false personna and location' made up by him.
No thank you for the consideration his main victim showed his family. (EOPC has had no response to emails we have attempted to send to this victim)
2. "J"/GRIDNEY/YIDWITHLID blames ONLY one of his victims for all the postings about him despite her trying to get them taken down in March of 2007. (Now which one of EOPC's victims really controls the internet? Hmmmm?) On a website she has, she said the primary reason these site owners would not remove him - was because SHE WAS NOT THE PERSON WHO HAD POSTED HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE.
"J"/GRIDNEY/ YidWithLid also expects us all to take him at his & his spouse's word that this victim of his did something to his mother to try to 'drive her to a heart attack.' No proof however - as usual, just words.
And as she said on her site (which we found out she closed for a while to try to calm him down), if she (or anyone) had done something that heinous and he has hard proof? Why isn't she in jail or doing community service?
3. "J"/GRIDNEY also says it was consensual, but neglects to mention that none of his targets knew he:
- had online sex partner-wanted ads since 2000 (years before he ever contacted these normal women!!)
- was seeing sexual escorts at a brothel (the brothel is now closed in part to him threatening this same victim, her going to the police and the police finding out that he was posting online about his exploits at this brothel. Good going, "J"/GRIDNEY!)
- the police did some forensic recovery and found his computer to be full of porn and his credit cards traced back to phone sex lines from 1999/ 2000?
Did we mention he's tried to erase it all and say it never existed? Sound familiar?
Lying, telling some normal woman you just met online she's the only one, playing mind games with her, moving in on her when she & her husband are separating, not supporting her when her husband finds out about their online affair and abuses her worse, hitting on her friends (we have evidence he hit on THREE of the friends of the first target!!) and she's mentally & emotionally vulnerable, as well as having a 'hidden agenda' does not make for consensual.
It does make for predatory exploitation.4. "J"/GRIDNEY wants this victim to withdraw her copyright to EOPC. Why? because some of their chats are on our site - and that's TOO MUCH PROOF OF HOW HE ABUSES TRUSTING WOMEN!!! She asked in March 2007, before we ran his story again. We refused.
Additionally, law enforcement gave all her chats to another of his targets and this other woman, as well as law enforcement gave us permission to use them! We were sensitive enough to not use certain chats that we were given at the very-person-he's-blaming's request. She wanted to protect his family and identity. Now of course, she's getting all his blame. No good deed goes unpunished.
5. "J"/GRIDNEY/ YidwithLid on his hate website about his vendetta says to one poster that he was angry that this target posted about him on an MSN Group.
Wait! Those are support groups for victims? Now, how did he find her there? Was he surfing for her? Reading everything she wrote and vented and cried about? Yes! He did!
In her 2004 interview with us his Target #1 told us that once the support site owners told her he was coming there and clicking on her story? She tried to get it all removed and the site owners refused. This victim left the support site partly because of this. Just like we refused. That's the nature of the policies of our sites and she wasn't the only person who wrote us about him!
According to guys like"J"/GRIDNEY/ YidWithLid - victims aren't allowed be hurt, complain or look for support either. They are allowed to be portrayed as SCORNED WOMEN. LOL - How's that for 'nice guys'?
DOUG BECKSTEAD - an "investigator" from the Air Force Base with which Beckstead's associated wrote us and subsequently, one of his victims trying to find out who she was, get her to phone them, etc etc. How much should we bet that it was one of Beckstead's friends trying to be sure who blew the whistle on his online predation so he could attack & bully her?
And guess what! Beckstead was mentioned in this very Air Force Base's newspaper so - must have been looking to clean up his image before they added to his overblown ego.
Rumor has it he's got another one 'on the hook' already. Don't we already know what he's telling her? And check the update we just did on him and all the stuff he's posted all over the web - trying to drown out the truth and glorify his 'reputation' when he's really a predator!
JULIA BISH-JUDAH-HUNT-McGOVERN? Just look at her interview. That says it all about how 'innocent' she considers herself after meeting men online and marrying them without even meeting them in person, among other things.
PHIL HABERMAN - click here for an update on this story.
The "scorned woman" defense.
The "they are lying/ making it all up/ just jealous/ never happened" defense.
You name it - you'll hear it with these people. Unfortunately sometimes their families or friends still believe them. Until its too late and they are caught doing it again. Do we see a pattern here?
As the article above says: IT'S NEVER THEIR FAULT. MUST BE THE INVISIBLE PERSON! NEVER THEM!
By the way, any Cyberpath who wants to write a full and accurate confession as well as an open, honest apology to any of the victims they have hurt, caused emotional & mental trauma, forced into counseling, sent to the hospital from trauma, caused rifts in their families, raged at, used and abused... we would be more than happy to publish it for you and see to it your victims get a copy of your healing words as well. (cyberpaths@gmail.com) If you would also like counseling for your issues in using people in this way - EOPC would be more than happy to help you find appropriate psychological help in your area.
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