Why do men cheat? Why is it, their biological desires seem to go unfulfilled and lead them to divorce court in the end? Every man is different, but the consensus is that sex driven men are being denied at home by their wives. The wives are using sex as a reward to keep their men in check. For example, if men refuse to help around the house, they will be denied.
Vanessa Lloyd Platt an attorney in the UK is amazed by how many women file for divorce right after the new year, in her post “Why we divorce lawyers are having a VERY happy New Year” for the Daily Mail she writes:
“For as long as I’ve been a divorce lawyer - some 29 years - it has always been the same; the first working day after the Christmas break is the busiest of the year. It’s a bit like the stampede on the first day of the January sales, except we have customers queuing up round the block for divorces, not discounts.
…In simple terms, it’s the fact that Christmas is one of the few periods of the year when husbands and wives are forced to spend a lot of time with each other. For the same reason, September is also a busy time for divorce lawyers, coming straight after the long summer holidays, and it seems to be the same complaints uttered every year.
A lot of people, especially women, get very excited about the build-up to Christmas and New Year, and have an image in their heads of a perfect family Christmas - a beautifully decorated house, stress-free cooking, charming children and a happy family playing board games in front of the tree.
Naturally, the expectation is far better than the reality, leaving many wives frustrated and disappointed that their dreams and hopes for the festive season have come to nothing.
…Many women complain that their husbands spent most of the Christmas and New Year festivities in the pub and not in their company, depriving them of the love, attention and support so many of them crave.
Having believed the holidays were the one time that they could isolate their menfolk from work and other distractions, the distractions still won.”
…Other women complain that their husbands do not do their fair share with the children, leaving them not only to do the shopping, cooking and clearing up, but also to provide endless entertainment for the little darlings as well.“
And yes, American Women feel the same way as their UK counterparts. These women just can’t seem to understand that they cannot train a lion or a grizzly with this mentality. It’s simple. If a woman loves her man freely and shows him appreciation, her man will do whatever it takes to keep her happy. That’s the secret ladies! Write that down! Yet many women feel they can use the promise of sex or the denial of sex to manipulate and change their man’s behavior. That will never work. It goes against biology. Why do you think we are built this way? We are not built with wide child bearing hips? Why do you think we are physically the strongest of genders? It’s because we can go out into the jungle and kill things and bring it back to the cave for the family to eat. Don’t send us mail, citing examples of physically (hooked on roids) strong women. Yes we are aware of a tiny percent of the freaks out there who deep down inside have p*nis envy. Man is king of the jungle and will always be. To deny otherwise, is to deny our biological roles. It has nothing to do with Male Chauvinism.
Over at the Don’t Get Married Forum, some brothers of ours comment on the dillema:
thechief writes: “This is probably my favorite “theme”, if you will, to this board and the MRA movement as a whole. The fact that we aren’t losing out on sex if we refrain from marriage because sex eventually dries up in a marriage anyway. They stop giving it up. And as I’ve said before, I don’t even think it’s something conscious for most of them. At some point they just realize they have everything they wanted out of a marriage (the house, the kids, the security, etc, etc) and they don’t have to give it up any more. This, combined with a passive/aggressive streak I think most women have that makes them uncomfortable whenever their man is too happy or contented means that eventually they decide ‘OK, that’s enough sex for you.’
Did they honestly think we wouldn’t mind?
The good news is that some prominent women (Dr. Laura, Jennifer Roback Morse) realize this is a problem and are encouraging women to rethink denying their men sex. There’s also a body cream–the active ingredients are testosterone, estrogen and progesterone–that supposedly helps keep the female libido up. I’m an optimist, maybe there’ll be a sea change some day.
Until then, frankly, there are call girls. As I’ve said, I respect escorts more than most women because at least they’re honest about the fact they’re f*cking you for your money.”
The Reverend Porckchops (Always a favorite commented on our story “What Would Life Be Like Without Feminism?“: “The feminists at N.O.W. are working diligently to legalize prostitution everywhere in America, so once the feminists at NOW get prostitution legalized everywhere in America then the marriage rate should plummet to near zero.”
We got an email from M. Hunter in reply to the Reverend’s comments that we felt should be included in this main post:
“And why exactly is that a bad thing. If prostitution were legalized it would solve a lot of problems for both sexes. First of all suckers wouldn’t have to worry about buying their ‘dates’ a dinner and a movie just so they might get a kiss. That means that as a guy you are paying $55 just to get your foot in the door. If you’re lucky enough to get laid by the third date you’ve just spent $165 and that’s not counting the time you’ve wasted that could be put to other uses. I don’t know about you but I would much rather bang a hot 18 year old legal prostitute that has been tested for stds’ then try and pick someone up at a club (which is basically has to do with chance) or waste my time dating.
Also think about how legalizing prostitution would effect the dynamics of male/female relationships. A manipulative woman would no longer have “******** it would only backfire on her when her husband stopped by the local brothel for and banged a hooker just out of high school. For professional gold diggers (think Anna Nicole here) it would be harder to manipulate rich and emotionally gullible men. There would also be less marriages for *** or money. People might actually start getting married because they’re (gasp) in love. powe
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