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The Story of Gridney - The Truth EXPOSED!
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(You can also view this whole story @ EOPC: FINAL NOTES ABOUT "J")
Gridney aka Yidwithlid is called "J" there - the details and even copies of IMs between "J"/Gridney/ Yidwithlid and his prey are spread in 13 posts throughout that month.
THIS IS A STORY WORTH READING!!!
THIS IS A STORY WORTH READING!!!
A friendship of almost 30 years torn apart by a predator's deception. One man's sick sexual addiction draws a woman who has considered him a good friend into his sick secret online world where all women are objects for his sexual perversions.
He profiles his old friend and once learning she's been abused for years in her marriage, Gridney/ Yidwithlid lures her using her shredded emotions into his sick game as a free cyber-whore, tries to start the same with no less than THREE of her friends, and creates a world of torment and confusion to a disabled mother already trapped in the vice grip of an abusive situation. And of course, like all of these predators - he then tries to blame her for everything.
As she shares a very detailed stage by stage journal of her experience, this author (his victim) exposes tactics used on her throughout the story that reaches into the very core of your understanding. She shares the insights she gained after months of trauma counseling, a stint in a clinic for the severe PTSD caused to her by Gridney/ Yidwithlid and through years of counseling now for the brainwashing done to her in these abusive mind games.
HER SITE IS: YES, I WAS THE STUMBLING BLOCK
He profiles his old friend and once learning she's been abused for years in her marriage, Gridney/ Yidwithlid lures her using her shredded emotions into his sick game as a free cyber-whore, tries to start the same with no less than THREE of her friends, and creates a world of torment and confusion to a disabled mother already trapped in the vice grip of an abusive situation. And of course, like all of these predators - he then tries to blame her for everything.
As she shares a very detailed stage by stage journal of her experience, this author (his victim) exposes tactics used on her throughout the story that reaches into the very core of your understanding. She shares the insights she gained after months of trauma counseling, a stint in a clinic for the severe PTSD caused to her by Gridney/ Yidwithlid and through years of counseling now for the brainwashing done to her in these abusive mind games.
HER SITE IS: YES, I WAS THE STUMBLING BLOCK
As you read through the chapters, notice the links available to further educate you as you explore your way through this REAL LIFE nightmare. Some of it is very personal but highly educating.
The writer helps enlighten you and you find that most of questions you may have had as a victim yourself, or about victims of online predators are being answered within the various posts. YES, I WAS THE STUMBLING BLOCK
In the hopes that her one time friend (who became her predator & terrorizer) turns his life around after being exposed, more of his deception and an ongoing campaign of hate against her for standing up for the truth enters her life that ultimately leads into a emotionally draining turn of events in both of their lives.
Now her victimizer (Gridney/ Yidwithlid) truly seeks revenge and is out with his own site to hurt her yet again & again. While he spins his 'true' version about their relationship, he again uses words like mental weapons to minimize his manipulative role and cast all blame on his victim:
See his original post: http://thestumblingblock.wordpress.com/2007/03/15/he-said/
Here's the old Link to his tantrum about this woman
(Don't click there though - this coward who said he "wasn't running anymore" removed this link!)
CLICK HERE TO VISIT GRIDNEY'S NEW SITE UNDER HIS NEW IDENTITY: http://yidwithlid.blogspot.com
Now her victimizer (Gridney/ Yidwithlid) truly seeks revenge and is out with his own site to hurt her yet again & again. While he spins his 'true' version about their relationship, he again uses words like mental weapons to minimize his manipulative role and cast all blame on his victim:
See his original post: http://thestumblingblock.wordpress.com/2007/03/15/he-said/
Here's the old Link to his tantrum about this woman
(Don't click there though - this coward who said he "wasn't running anymore" removed this link!)
CLICK HERE TO VISIT GRIDNEY'S NEW SITE UNDER HIS NEW IDENTITY: http://yidwithlid.blogspot.com
While speaking from the heart with a honest attempt to set things right she includes her acceptance of responsibility as well as unedited documentation and hard proofs of what happened.
This writer shares her personal journal kept throughout this very painful time in her life and the profound sense of enduring loss of her "friend" with hope to allow them both to move forward in both their lives. She admits she will never "get over" something this devastating and amazingly, she leaves the door open for genuine dialogue between them in the future!
If Gridney aka Yidwithlid (like many of these online predators) has put his life in such order ('gone to counseling, made things right with his wife' etc.), then why is he focused on trying to destroy the very person that sent him on the path to change?
Why does he blame her when he was a sex addict for years prior to luring her into his deceit?
Why is he so adamant that he will NEVER speak to this hurting woman who was his supposed friend; using words like 'it wouldn't be good for either of us' or 'it would hurt my wife too much' as excuse?
Why did he tell her, just before she found out his game - that she was "just about sex" for him, knowing full well she & her children were being beaten and verbally abused because of him? (not the first time someone had beaten her up because of him - and with his knowledge this was happening to her he did nothing)
Why do these pathologicals run from true accountability, if they have really changed their lives?
What's he really mad about?
Why does he blame her when he was a sex addict for years prior to luring her into his deceit?
Why is he so adamant that he will NEVER speak to this hurting woman who was his supposed friend; using words like 'it wouldn't be good for either of us' or 'it would hurt my wife too much' as excuse?
Why did he tell her, just before she found out his game - that she was "just about sex" for him, knowing full well she & her children were being beaten and verbally abused because of him? (not the first time someone had beaten her up because of him - and with his knowledge this was happening to her he did nothing)
Why do these pathologicals run from true accountability, if they have really changed their lives?
What's he really mad about?
- That his victim finally did the right thing and told his wife (she said she told him rather than another of his online girlfriends because she wanted to take full responsibility for doing so) so his wife could finally help him?
- That she did it and even gave his wife her name and phone number; not to break up their marriage but save it?
- Admits that her ex-husband hacked her computer but now she has verifiable proof that despite the cybersex she pleaded with Gridney/ Yidwithlid to talk to his wife or seek cognitive behavior counseling numerous times?
- Is Gridney/ Yidwithlid mad that he can no longer feed his online porno and expensive lunchhour hooker habit? (he neglects to mention the latter in his story)
- Is he mad that his sick party; which started years prior to him looking up this victim online, profiling and using her; is over?
- That she finally stood up and refused to being some words on a screen to be clicked on & off at will?
- That she truly loved him enough to see to it that he and his wife & family get the truth and healing they deserved? While she lives with emotional pain and sorrow and Gridney/ Yidwithlid continues to blackball her?
Isn't it strange how when the light is shown into these predators sick and twisted lives, how they suddenly try to convince everyone they have changed, they are broken & sad or hurt, their victim was the bad one - not them, they are the victims, etc.......
Is he sincere? Only God knows.
For his family's sake, theexposer hopes so.
Too many times we have seen these predators smear and paint their victim as crazy, jealous, a scorned woman, a nut from a bad marriage or a stalker - when these victims are truly none of these things other than vulnerable, caring human beings.
And too many times, they just find another avenue.
(and by deleting his original post from his site, seems he's tried to cover up and end all discussion again.)
PLEASE READ: Yes, I was the Stumbling Block.
Thanks to the people at EOPC for alerting us to this story!
Hold them accountable, no matter how long it takes.
(and by deleting his original post from his site, seems he's tried to cover up and end all discussion again.)
PLEASE READ: Yes, I was the Stumbling Block.
Thanks to the people at EOPC for alerting us to this story!
Hold them accountable, no matter how long it takes.
The Exposer
exposer@37.com
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Nor may any of our posts be copied & pasted to anyone else's blog or another site without our express written permission.)
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