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When a  predator/ narcissist lashes out in classic narcissistic rage because the truth and thus, their secrets have been exposed, they will do what ever they can to discredit the person who told the truth and took a stand.

No matter how wrong they know they are, no matter how much they have to lie or smear -  it doesn't matter because to them, the truth is ugly and it will hurt the reputation they believe they have established.

>>Narcissistic rage can include phenomena as different as slight annoyance, paranoiac rancor, and catatonic fury. Linked to loss of control, it signals the existence of some unresolved psychic injury of an archaic, narcissistic character. Such rage aims to repair an injustice, a narcissistic wound unrelieved so long as shame persists and the witness to it is not destroyed. Thus, the need for revenge in the face of ridicule, disdain or contempt, represents an expression of narcissistic rage. Destructiveness is a linked to this kind of narcissistic defect, not a reaction to a primary instinct.<<

They needed to keep their secrets hidden so they can continue to do whatever they want and use whoever they want anytime they want to.

They believe they have this great reputation (built on their lies) to protect, but the truth usually is that a  number of people already know it's a lie and just haven't exposed it.  Or they are too busy being confused by the narcissist/predator's lies and therefore, can't wrap their brain around the truth.

Narcissists make the best actors. They will tell you whatever they think you need to hear to get you to do whatever they need you to do.  This is their lure.

They may even seem to "apologize" to you if they need you to shut you down about their sick behavior. Does it mean that they will stop hurting people and get help?

Maybe for a period of time if at all. (Long enough to hope its all blown over) If you had not found out about them they would not have apologized at all.  And don't think for a second the apology is sincere.  It is simply another way to keep further truth from coming out and exposing them for what they are.

One exposed predator used the legal system to harass his victim and try to bully her into silence. He and his attorney lied and manipulated the system to try and hurt this person's family. Because she stood up and helped the others he hurt, they even went to extreme measures to smear and harm not only this victim but the victim's children. 

He went as far as to file false charges on her out of retaliation and then gave a fake, insincere "apology" when the truth came out.

Another example would be our exposed predator Gridney/Yidwithlid who claimed he had made amends with his 'beloved' wife (the same wife he'd already told 3 women was cold, unfeeling and he didn't love anymore nor had he loved for a long time) and had "put it all behind him" while he simultaneously continues to lash out at and blame one victim after she tried to remove him from the sites and told the truth with hard proofs about what she had and had not done! 

Gridney/YidwithLid has never even tried to respond to one of his victim's attempts to reach out and make peace with him nor has he  ever apologized and publicly corrected the lies and smear he's put out against this person.

You cannot believe a narcissist/ predator!

With or without serious psychological help, the narcissist/ predator continues the same pattern.

Why? because it is a PERSONALITY DISORDER.  They don't get help because they believe they are better than everyone else and that they are perfect & superior.

They just play the role they need to play to get what they want by apologizing - hoping to stop the flood of truth about them.


What happens when they get figured out by someone who is able to see through their pathological lying and actually holds them accountable?

Narcissistic Rage.  They will stop at nothing to get even. If during their quest for revenge, they start to get into some trouble, they will then use the humble apology approach to not only try to confuse and manipulate, but also to gain sympathy & stop you from speaking out!

So many times they claim they have "changed their life" but truth is they are already using or targeting yet another unsuspecting victim.

Wait! Yet Another time they say this time they have "changed their life," but then turn around and lash out at their victim(s) because they got busted. 

That's not change.  That's bullying.

"Psychologically there are several criteria which have been applied to this personality disorder. These are:

• The narcissist can not take perspective, hence situations are blown out of proportion
  
• The narcissist has little or no empathy. This means that (s)he cannot identify with the feelings or thoughts of another person
  
• The narcissist is preoccupied with her/his personal distress
• The narcissist cannot accept authority and hence has little concern for morals or ethics
  
• The narcissist feels easily inferior and will try to be seen as superior and does not care who he offends (emphasis author's)
  
• The narcissist is hypersensitive, and hence cannot accept any form of critique
• The narcissist is an exhibitionist and needs sexual admiration and will lie to obtain it
  
• The narcissist is exploitative, vain and not self-sufficient"

SOURCE
"A narcissistic injury occurs when someone defeats or criticizes the narcissistic individual. The narcissist may not show it outwardly, but he is haunted by criticisms and defeats. When a narcissistic injury occurs, the narcissist begins to feel empty, degraded, and humiliated and he is capable of retaliating with narcissistic rage. His reactions constitute disdain or defiant attacks."  - Source

"...what the narcissist does is to build on the already existing negative self images and enlarge them to a maximum. The situation is even worse because we are aware of short comings in ourselves. This is where the narcissist is most successful. The narcissist will endeavour to increase these short comings. I may give a personal example: once, I gave up smoking, the narcissist exercised so much pressure on me until I started again (I still smoke sometimes). The narcissist would really like to see you in the gutter."  SOURCE<<

In one moment, you're foolishly left thinking, "this is an adult; surely they are sincere",  right?

Next moment you find yourself in jail because the narcissist /predator has filed false charges on you using selective information!

Or you lost a job because of a narcissist/ predator's vindictive smear campaign.

Sound crazy?  It is! But it's happened many, many times where a narcissist/predator is concerned.

Like Phil Haberman, who sued his ex-wife in an attempt to try to take the focus off the fact that he is a con-man, still online constantly, preying on naive women.

If a narcissist has money to manipulate the legal system and you are in financial distress, they will use that to their advantage.  Remember - PREDATORS HUNT THE WOUNDED.

These are some the things that may happen when you stand up against a narcissist/predator like this.  To have anything to do with them is a waste of time. They make it dangerous to even get the word out in an attempt to help others.

Still, some have gone down this road and have endured a lot of ridicule for it. 

Does that mean we give up on exposing the truth and become fearful of this evil?

NO!  It should just give us more of a push to do our legal research and be able to fight for our rights and the safety of others.  Narcissist/Predators count on us being too afraid or naive to say anything.  We need to fully support those who speak out and speak out ourselves, if we know the truth, too!

YOU LEND CREDENCE TO HIS FALSE ACCUSATIONS AGAINST YOU AND ALL HIS INNOCENT VICTIMS if you contribute [with your silence] to the lie that he was a good person. - source

We need to hold them accountable - no matter it what it takes - and not be afraid.  When more of us stand up - less innocent people will have their lives and sanity torn apart by these remorseless creatures.

- redscarlet

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