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FROM EOPC (our inspiration) another story of a cyberpath.  A narcissist who thinks more of himself than anything else.  His emails centered on the tiny details of his days because he's just SO interesting.  He followed the pattern they all follow and even involved this target's children.

Read the whole story by clicking here and scrolling the month on EOPC.  Beware this man!

One of Beckstead's Targets heard from another Target. We always recommend to talk to other Targets if they are open to it - just to validate that these cyberpaths DO have a script they follow -- and do it to everyone they can.

Also, we'd like to remind you - the moment your suspected cyberpath says "don't talk to so-and-so because she's jealous/ obsessed with me/ stalking me/ a liar.. etc" MAKE IT YOUR BUSINESS TO GET IN TOUCH WITH THAT PERSON IMMEDIATELY! 99.99% of the time what the predator said was a lie and they have some bad history with this person (aka - the person they are telling you not to talk to knows the truth about them!)

EOPC comments are in purple.

Here's an excerpted email from another of Beckstead's hapless targets:

From: PXXX
Date: Apr 18, 2007 4:49 PM
To: xxxxxxxx@XXX.com

HI xxxxxx,

I am not sure if I plan on writing him or not. I have thought about it, just to say shame on you for hurting so many people.

I want you to know that if I had ever known that you were a part of his life, I would never have talked with him like I did. I am a very naive and trustful person, even of those on the internet and believed him to be what he claimed he was. Unfortunately I have learned that there are many people who are not as they claim to be, and the internet provides a safety net to hide behind. He obviously used this many times.

I take a small bit of responsibility for my part when Doug and I were talking. I wanted to believe what he was saying, and I knew that there was a huge risk in trusting someone who I had no real access to. But, lessons have been learned from such experiences.

Be strong for yourself and your children. Everyday will be better than the one before. If you want to tell him that I know that is up to you. I can handle him no problem. I wish that we would have talked 3 years ago and maybe this all would have had a different outcome.

Have a wonderful day.
XXX
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From his Target:

News on Douglas Beckstead that recently came to light. I just found out that he is already stringing along another woman and her MSN display name is "kittenXXX" with her nickname being "TrishXXX".

I have not contacted her, as much as I would love to be the whistle blower, she probably would not believe me just yet. There are no other details on her that I can find, but he has listed her as his only "friend" on spaces live and vice versa, she with him. Almost advertising the fact I would say. I don't know what made me check his space (normal suspicion - be glad you did!), but i decided to do so last night. (surprise! NOT)

He recently contacted me again and sent an ecard of a rather weak apology for "the craziness of the past few months".

He then played the sympathy card again stating that both he and his family had been down, or rather were down with influenza type A (the pandemic variety), I almost believed it too. (boo hoo for Doug. Read our post about the "Martyr Man". Beckstead probably juggles more women than a circus act)

I had hoped to resolve our differences and put an end to all the bitterness that has transpired. More fool me. His games continue. (all of us would like to heal and put things right with them. We invested time & energy on these predators only to be treated like nothing. If you read back over our other predators - many targets try this. Its a normal reaction - however - they are NOT normal people)

(Click here to see what's happened with another target who tried to put things right with her cyberpath)

Let's see what sort of 'cover stories' Beckstead tries to fling at this target now:

From: Doug Beckstead
Subject: RE: Hi
Date: Mon, 26 Mar 2007 06:26:31 -0800

Hi!

This was not a good weekend for me. I thought whatever it was that knocked me down for the previous two was trying to come back. I've been coughing to the point of almost fainting. Not fun. (aaaawwwww)

I don't have a clue who kittenXXX and TrishXXX are. Please don't start making something out of something that isn't there.

I'm sorry that I didn't respond immediately. We were on the way out the door when I started the computer up and I had every intention of responding when I got home. We're playing "bus driver" for the kids with their jobs and sometimes I like to go pick them up just to shop around their stores for a little while. (so you are THAT sick, but you are running around with the kids - your ADULT children?)

Has the doctor given you anything else to help out with your flu/asthma? It sounds like whatever they've given you isn't working very well. I sure hope you get on the mend really soon! (wow, he actually acknowledges this target for once. Probably to try to reel her back in yet again... throw her a crumb of attention)

One of the other historians at the office is moving on Saturday. XXX and I are going to help her. Should be pretty easy as she has virtually no furniture. I expect it won't take more than an couple of hours. (now he's deathly sick but he's helping someone move... right?)

I hope you're feeling better!!! (he hopes you believe his b.s.)

hugs!

Doug
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Second response sent from Beckstead to his Target.
Here he is frantically trying to cover his lies further now, as he knows that I know he would have had to have accepted her invitation and vice-versa. Does he ever give up and just tell the truth? No.

As for the "Aviator" guy, no he is not on his list, he never had an excuse for that though. Give it up Beckstead.

Notice how "sick" he always seems to be, always has to out do everyone at everything. (because he's a malignant narcissist)

From: Doug Beckstead
Subject: RE: Hi
Date: Mon, 26 Mar 2007 20:16:45 -0800

Hi!

Boy, you sound like you are having as bad a go of it as we have had up here on our end of the world. (set up...)

As for the XXXXX and MSN space, I don't use MSN space. Someone sent me a message about adding me to theirs a long time ago and I probably set it up then. the only "kitten" person I can think of would have been that woman who went by Kitty at the VIP. There was also someone there a long time ago who's name was Trisha. I don't remember what her "stage name" was. (never his fault is it? this is a total lie and the second time he wrote about Target's questioning him - because he knows she's nailed him and like any good cyberpath he's determined to keep at it until she believes him. If she doesn't - he'll go on the smear attack like they all do)

If you saw the list, you'll probably also see someone called "Aviator" he's a buddy of mine from my college days. Aviator and I share e-mails a lot. As for the others, I wouldn't even know how to get into whatever MSN is using for IM stuff these days. XXX just changed their whole look and I'm still working on trying to figure it out. (he's just soooo confused!! lol)

XXX and I went out to dinner tonight (the kids are all working). Something didn't go right. I came in the door from the car, walked straight to the bathroom and up came everything I ate. Not fun. Even being sick didn't cause me to do that. (poor Doug poor poor Doug... LOL!)

Cheers!

Me
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Squirrels are Nature's little speed bumps. (apparently this is how Doug considers all his Targets)

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