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Dr. Carnes discusses in detail the psychological trauma associated with a relationship with a sociopath, though his book does not focus only on sociopaths. When you finish this book you will have a clear perspective on why and how you became attached to a sociopath. The book is full of questions and exercises designed to help you assess yourself and find healing.

Many people have asked me if I believe that sociopaths can change or if I think someone suspected of sociopathy should be given a second chance. Dr. Carnes spells out the criteria for allowing someone back into your life. On page 160 he gives a clear cut, sound opinion on this matter.

He states that the betrayer/abuser should have:

1. A clear track record of non-abusing behavior (I add 6-12 months).
2. A verifiable commitment to therapy and to 12- Step Group attendance.
3. A coordinated effort of joint therapy involving both partners.
4. An acceptance of the consequences of his/her actions.
5. A clear and earnest effort to make amends to all who have been hurt.
6. An agreement for zero tolerance of old behavior.

He also states that victims need time away from the abuser to heal. These guidelines are very important because not all people with sociopathic traits are incapable of change. Sociopaths at this point are beyond help. Sociopaths are not capable of steps 1-6 above.

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